Manage your Manager

Manage your Manager

Working hard is not enough, from the lowest to the highest positions, we have to cooperate and help each other, in order to get the best outcome.

Being a co-worker is not easy, you need to carry on everyday, under pressure, according to strict deadlines and small budgets...we need to be proactive, problem solver, creative, no exception can be accepted.

This is co-worker basic duties....what about being a Manager?

Managers are facing these days so many things, we cannot even imagine...

First of all, they need to manage all bureaucracy documentation, e.g. Invoices, statement of account, letter of credit, and more.. They also need to check every single thing we are doing, as they are “managing” our workplace.

They need most of all to motivate their staff, good manager trusts on good co-workers and never leave them alone in the darkness.

Carrying on all these stressful duties, surrounded by such an hard economic time can be very hard..for us but more than ever for them.

We don’t think about this during our workday, we love our work and our duties, but we care only about our small table and laptop, or our Van side... Especially during such stressful times like end of the year or before Summer holidays...

This bring our manager to explode sometime...it hurts us, because it is not easy to manage stressful situation as well as stressed Manager.. If we cannot handle this situation, it can bring us under very bad light...

How can we manage our Manager?

1) Don’t feed the fire: Your manager comes and shouts... If you reply to him, how can you pretend to be understood? He has just shown you his very weak side...stress management... Be silent and understand him...then go there and show him some solutions, work in cooperation with him...he wants and help not a judge!!

2) Respect his position: good co-worker recognizes the positions... He is higher than you and represent his own company, never forget that you are his co-worker not his associate...ask him, show him good solution...don’t give him advice unless he is asking you... Let him feeling comfortable with you.

3) Be honest: when you do a mistake just walk to him and apologize..don’t be a child, he is not your father and he can’t understand you totally, as he is not in charge of it!!! You are his help not his limit!!! Be a man/woman and be responsible, he can then trust on you.

4) Respect his rules: every serious office has a behaviour code, especially regarding shift time, dress, project management and more... RESPECT THEM!! small things matter!!

5) Smile not laughing: Ilike being very funny but it was not appreciated, especially during working shift.... You have your friends, your life out of your job...there you can laugh...now you are working, focus on this! Smile is always a good way to show your work satisfaction.

6) Be professional: I will write my next blog post about this... Being professional is a lifestyle, you need to think, act and look professional... Work like this were your company

7) How are you today? This is a good question, he can feel you bit more closer, you can build a good relationship, it shows him that you are interested about his person not only the monthly wage

8) Listen to him: Managers don’t have so much time.. If you are lucky to have a good heart manager, please listen to his words... He never comes to waste his precious time... If you hear and don’t listen, he will see it... Be careful

9) Be strong: Managers use to test their co-workers...you manager will teaze you sometime, he needs to see how you react...don’t lose your self-confidence, which means don’t lose yourself!!! Show him your strength... React but don’t move too much, just speak easy.

10) ACCEPT: You can be a rebel or a very passive person, nevermind, there will always be something youdon’t agree with...here you are working not discussing..he decides, he pays you and he will evaluate your work... Once again accept him, as it is...don’t complain, it won’t help...don’t shout, it will destroy yourself...if your idea is better, well, demonstrate him that you are right.. If he is clever (as I think) he will thank you.

Thanks for reading, 

Pietro

Let your river flow

Let your river flow

“Sometimes, we are so attached to our way of life that we turn down wonderful opportunities simply because don't know what to do with it.” 
― Paulo Coelho, Like the Flowing River

Everyday we leave the past and begin something new, since we open our eyes and see what's in front of us, we should than be used to new challenges, new people and new life styles....
Every citizen of the World was used to travel to another city, another country almost everyday, using caravan, horses, like Gipsies used to do nowadays, because we were all gipsies in the past.

This is the human nature, how our life should be, there are no nations, no boarders, Worlds is not my own property, it is our all property.

Quote mentioned above was taken from a marvellous book written by Paulo Coelho' genius hands, which simply explains how can we be ready for our time if we are still attached to our old habits.

It is incredible, we change everyday and we are still not able to accept it!!

How can we be ready to catch our train?

1) Be ready for the best: we spend so much time focusing on our problems, our bad times, we call friends and explain everything...bla bla bla...we go down and we call another one again..bla bla bla..and again and again.... what's the result?? WE ARE DOWN AND BECOME TOTALLY UNCONFIDENT!! Now, try to focus on the good things happening during your day....
Is your car broken? Maybe it is the time to check it!
Did your girlfriend leave you? Maybe she was not the right one!!
Was your manager bad to you? Maybe you didn't behave as he expected, tomorrow will be better!!!
Every single thing brings benefits!!
MANAGE YOUR FEELING, YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY AND GET THE BEST FROM YOUR LIFE!

2) Motivate yourself: If you wait other people to motivate you, you can stand there 10 years then!!
You are your motivation, fight for your life, don't be scared, if you don't cathc your train, someonelse will do it!! You go down once, you go down twice, you can go down everyday MOST IMPORTANT IS YOU GET UP!!! Be the warrior you want to see, let the river flows, wath it and think how to act, plan your day, step by step.

3) See your goal: Michelangelo Buonarroti was one of the best Italian genius ever, when they asked him "How did you manage to create David" He replied "It is easy, I imagined him in the stone and take the rest out"... Your goal dones't depend only on your imagination but also on you way to see the things...if Michelangelo didn't think like that he probably could never be whom he was....
Plan your goal, if you want to be a runner, see yourself everyday 10 meters further not 10 meters back.
I work in sales and this is my daily meal, I need to see my goal, I meet everyday new prospects and they use to decline my offers 90% of times... no problem, I saw my goal in them, maybe I will adjust my focus, how I speak, everything is up to how we think, our feelings are our thoughts!

4)Be faithful:  Believing in yourself or in your thoughts is the key to reach your goal, this is proven and we all know it... if you don't believe in your skills or in your words, everything you do or say will be weak and uncertain, the message you deliver will be unclear and people around you will not know how wonderful you are! Believing and be faithful are 2 verbs walking together on the same way...
If you don't believe in somebody bigger or something bigger (this is up to your choices and culture), you will always see the World and your life from a lower step. We need to be higher than our problems and see them from an upper side, in order to manage them!!

Thanks everyone for reading it!!!

Communicate Yourself

Communicate yourself

Nowadays is very important to communicate, the message is becoming even more important than the content.

In case you don’t agree with me, let’s analyze yourself:

Do you have Facebook account?

Do you have Linkedin account?

Do you have Twitter account?

Do you have Instagram account?

Now, tell me: what are you using them for?

I am sure almost 85% of you are saying “I DON’T KNOW!”, 8 % are saying “TO BE IN CONTACT WITH PEOPLE FARAWAY” 5% are saying “FOR BUSINESS PURPOSE”.

How many times are you logging in? 5-6 times a day?

How often do you call friends you have in your social account? Twice a week?

How often do you meet them? Once a week? Even, once a month?

OK, you can agree with me now, WORDS ARE BECOMING MORE IMPORTANT THAN CONTENTS... We are living our relationship, friendship, or whatever connected via internet, via social media...SOCIAL means being in SOCIETY, not standing alone in the desert!!

Have you ever checked your social media image? 

It seems impossible but YOUR IMAGE SHOWS YOURSELF...lies don’t have long life in internet, see this example:

You post a fake image of yourself, people believe you for couple of days...if you don’t show your actions or other images you look certainly fake, when you publish something in internet billion of users can see you...

If you do the same in the real life, you know for sure less than 1 million people.

This means INTERNET CAN PROOF REAL THINGS...

Same happens when you post something in your wall, let’s see this example:

You post some shit pictures, because “IT IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ARE FREE TO DO IT!!”... You look for a job the day after, you apply for a good vacant position.

CEO receives your CV and says “Look , this guy looks handsome, such experience, that’s good for us..but let me check how he manages himself, does he have social media account?”

He looks for your facebook account and...that’s it..your picture is showing your drunk face smoking with 2 girls...it seems cool for you but he will never call you for that job!!!

You can do the same mistake when you post many other contents...

Let’s see my suggestion to give the right COMMUNICATION OF YOURSELF:

1) Be real: Post your real thoughts, not fake pictures or other cool things you on’t like to.

2) Be neutral: don’t post politics ideal, religious ideal, sexual ideal, in my oipinion we are all free but when you post keep in mind that you are publishing yourself.

If you discriminate and ideal, you are cutting off all people thinking different, this can be very dangerous for yourself

3) Be clean: clean image always gives to other people a good feeling, first of all this gives you a good idea of yourself and makes you feel better.

4) Don’t spoil everything: Now you have cleaned up your wall, your image...don’t post shit status like: I hate this, that... We are all facing hard times or troubles during our life, but social media surely cannot hear your or be your best friend.

5) Have a good time with friends: Social media cannot be your best friend as I said above, you should use them for good purpose, they may help you to be in touch with your friends and meet new ones!! This means call your friends and plan a night out or create a group in facebook and plan it!!

Thanks for reading it!!!

Being your best product

Being your best product

“Get going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don't just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won't happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you'll love it up here.” 
― Donald Trump

We choose what to eat, what to drink, even what we smell...every day we make choices, they more or less change our life...using even different fragrance makes us feeling another person...

It means that our actions are leading our life, better, our daily life.

How do we choose a product?

We go, see and pick up,... we like good deals, nice package, good advertisment....everything is just going around our positive emotions, we never buy negative products...

We would never choose "something makes us fat" or "something makes us feeling worse",,,,,

These products are used by us, they belong to us, they become us or beter, we become them...

We are the same naked everyday (maybe fatter or fitter), if we wear an high class suit we feel elegant, smart...when we wear an easy going t-shirt we feel easy...that's very simple!!

What about if we were our products?

We think to be good in picking up products, we decide in few seconds...our emotions are strictly connected to images we see and that's it! deal done!!

Have you ever tried to be the product you should choose?

I don't think we try to do this.... but we do it everyday, we sell our ideas every single moments of our life.

When we choose our future house, we try to show to our partner the best sides and make feeling him wondered about what we see, WE TRY TO SELL IT!!

When we talk to our son and explain him this school is better than another one, we show him his future, his prospective, WE TRY TO SELL IT!

Ok, Ok.....we are so good to sell our things to other people....but how can we promote ourself??

1) Talk good be good:  We are what we say, if we say "I am bad" I am automatically digging my own pit.... I will see my self as BAD and I will show my IMAGE bad to others around me.

We have only one choice: TALK GOOD TO OURSELF!!

2) Be your sales consultant:  Try to imagine you walking in a shop and asking advices to a sales consultant, it is not an easy job for sure. How would you like to be suggested? Imagine that you are your personal shopper, you need to drive yourself to good choices in freedom...

3) Practice, practice, practice: “If people knew how hard I had to work to gain my mastery, it would not seem so wonderful at all.” 

― Michelangelo Buonarroti

Sometime we like to take the shortcut, we think everything should be easier or quicker...NO, NO, NO..there is nothing better than hard working....when you suffer and work hard you really give the best you have!!! When you give the best you have everything around you starts matching.... call it magic moment, luck, what you prefer but you did soemthing to make it happen!!

PRACTICE, PRACTICE AND PRACTICE TILL YOU MAKE IT!!

Waiting you comments!!!suggestiongs are welcome!!

thanks for reading it!!!

Positive Magnet

Positive Magnet

“Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.” 
― Nathaniel Branden

Today was not the best day of my working life, everything seemed to go wrong...

When you work in sales, it is very easy to destroy your day, following to the rules I try to apply to my everyday life:

Though = Words

Words= Actions

Actions= Feelings

People feels immediately what you are feeling, let's see this example:

Today I called a customer, I had a very positive feeling when I heard him the first time, my brain was expecting something good... I showed him all my cards but he didn't want to play at all...

First rule in sales is to listen to what customer says and give him what he really wants...

It may happen that customer is not interested in what you are offering, even if you ask all the questions you can ...NO WAY.

This is normal, the more you try the more you get...in this case I got bit down...this is not good...

Next call was even worse...this time customer chose our competitor because they had better deal....

I really got down and I felt lost....which is not good at all...

3 rules were working: Bad Thought = bad words to myself --> Bad Words=Bad actions--> Bad Actions= Bad Feelings --> BAD FEELINGS=BAD JUDGMENT.

JUDGMENT=IDEA OF OUR SELF.

It means that in few minutes the idea I had of myself completely changed, from VERY GOOD to VERY BAD.

We need to be able to manage this feeling, BEING A POSITIVE MAGNET means to attract what good feelings you can generate from your heart.

How can we be a positive magnet?

1) Today is a great day:  2 phone calls cannot make your day...remember you are the manager of your day!! Think about the more you try the more you get, one customer lost =  10 potential customers found, JUST KEEP ON!!

2) Your mistake = Your lesson: Try to think about how much you learnt from your mistakes...you cannot be a good sales man, a good man, a good father or whatelse without making mistakes, MISTAKES ARE THE BEST LESSONS FOR OUR LIFE!! Being thankful for this magic thing!!

3)Being positive as a choice:  You chose to be happy, because it is free, it makes you feel better...if you let bad thoughts or experiences to lead yourself, you will never know yourself till the end.

You are your day, your life, your faith..you decide where to take your sould and your spirit everyday....Choose a great place then!!!HAPPY PLACE!!

4)Doubt of yourself, you will be a better person:  There is nothing wrong to doubt of ourself, our thoughts... you can ask yourself, you can discover the reason why you doubt of yourself...MOST IMPORTANT YOU CAN START CHANGING!!! Our life is an ongoing movement, if you stand and wait how can you receive soemthing? You produce what you get, nobody can be a complete person without experienceing the doubt option...You will go through it and you will be stronger!!

5)Never give up!!!  We are warrior of the light, we need to keep our light switched on even when we are down or our energy is low...DON'T LET OTHERS TAKE YOUR ENERGIES!!! Be the change you want to see!!!

EMOTION FLOWING

Emotion Flowing

“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”

― Bruce Lee

Best way to wish a good Monday morning to all of you out there.

Beginning of the week is never easy, we start again our working week, we need to face our challenges.

It is all a matter of emotion managing, our day can be the best or the wors, we decide for it.

We cannot stop emotions, they just flow every single moment, if we don't want to be leade by them, we need to adjust and pour them in our tea cup.

How can we manage our feelings?

When we ride an horse we have 2 choices: we lead or he leads:

If we lead, we can ride everywhere we want to, we feel more selfconfident and less passive, we are active for our life.

If he lead, we are submissive then, he becomes our leader and we adjust to what happens.. we feel loser as we don't have the contro of our life at that moment.

What would you choose??

1) Stepping forward:  Face your enemy before it will face you... step forward, don't look back!

KEEP ON DOING!! If you give up it will be worse, your emotions will be even worse!

You decide to feel good or bad, keep focusing on positive things you are doing or you have done!!

2) Train your self:  This is for sure the most important part of your daily duty!! You train everyday yourself, you will get better everyday, you will be able to keep on longer and to carry heavier weights.

If you train to manage everyday your emotions, you can really live your life!!!

3) Don't take it personally: People easily judge others, as they love them, if your manager or friend comes and comment you with bad sentences, don't take it personally...they could simply have a bad time..as our thoughts are tthe expressions of our deepest parts, try to understand them and leave it.

You have a wonderful day ahead, be stronger than them, go there and buy the a coffee... ACTIONS ARE EVERYTHING!

4) Make it simple:  Best thing to do in bad or complicated situations is to make them simple.

How can you do it?

It is easier than you think about, if everybody around you is haning a bad day, go there and make them smile...first time you don't succeed, do it twice...POSITIVE THOUGHTS ALWAYS WIN!

Creative people are those aking simple the hardest situations.

Slaves were singing, dancing, if they succeed, you can do it too!!

HAVE A WONDERFUL MONDAY!!

REMEMBER: MON-DAY THE DAY OF THE MOON BUT ALSO OF THE MOODY PEOPLE!!

Take it easy!!!

Your Energy Your Life

Your Energy Your Life

“I am somewhat exhausted; I wonder how a battery feels when it pours electricity into a non-conductor?”
― Arthur Conan Doyle, The Adventure of the Dying Detective

Saving energy is one of new challenge human being is going to face... I am working at the moment in the industrial motive field and everything is just claiming about ENERGY SAVING.

How can we save our energy?

We want to save the World, firs we need to save ourself for sure.

It is rather impossible to save something so big as our land if we are not even able to save what is good in us.

As our thoughts, our ideas flows, same our energy does... we spend energy during our working day, we spend energy during our sport activity, we spend energy....we spend energy everyday...

We spend energy most of all with people of our life...

You talk to your partner and you get disappointed...that feeling makes a bad thought in your mind and that bad thought takes your energy....

Result: You don't get anything good, your day goes wrong because your thought is corrupted...

What can we do then?

1) Energy is our blood:  Sometime we do spend energy with unuseful people, we just go our for a drink and come back home out of energy, we feel tired...DON'T FOLLOW YOUR DAILY HABIT!! Try to choose useful people for your life, good friends have to make you feel good not bad!!

2) Be useful for yourself: This is extremely important, everyday we should check how useful we were for ourself, doing useful things for us is one of the best daily duty.

Check how good you did and try to improve, wasting time takes you to bad result and bad feelings

3) Recharging your soul:  I know this matters a lot for me...actually, this should matter for everyone.

Creative people use to spend a lot of time on their own to recharge their batteries.... As I am a battery sales man I can tell you: RECHARGING YOUR BATTERY IS A MATTER OF LIFE!!! Our battery is our soul and our spirit, they walk together on the same path, feed one to each other!!!

Thanks for reading and have a good Sunday people!!

REMEMBER: SUN-DAY, THE DAY OF SUN!!!

Doing what you said

Doing what you said

“Faith is about doing. You are how you act, not just how you believe.” 
― Mitch Albom, Have a Little Faith: a True Story 

Many ideas came in my mind before publishing this blog.... I used to say "right time will come, right moment will come"...

When I posted the first time, I promised to myself "this will be just the beginning not something lasts 3 days"...

Words, words and words...how many words are we saying during a day?

My last posts were about "correct use of our mouth", what we say is what we do but first, what we think is what we say...

According to this, our thoughts should be made of good willing, we can say many right words but doing many wrong actions too.

It is important once again to be-inspirit (INSPIRED), actually it is the most important part.

How much time are you spending for your Spirit?

As sentence on the top said, FAITH is about DOING...we can think to have a very strong faith, praying everyday is not enough....

People are nowadays posting so many things about faith, angels, spirit, if you just look at, they seem to be part of the heaven.

Are they really like that? Do we really need to show so much about ourself??

I don't think so, Faith is not enough, WE NEED TO DO WHAT WE SAY!!

It is too easy to speak about good things and turn them into bad ones in a couple of minutes.

1) FAITH IS NOT FASHION: Being fashion and looking good to others eyes,  you can go shopping then, it is easier and you can spend time very well!! I do it also even if I am not a model!!! :) EASY!!!
HAVING FAITH  is our deep spiritual research, it is part of us which is just asking not to speak or showing off too much, just try to do our best and have a positive thoughts, even when things are not working.

2) FEED YOUR BRAIN: We need to spend time on our own, this will help us to collect all our thought/actions and analyze what we did during the day.... Going for a walk alone or sitting down in a quiet corner.... breathing-in and -out slowly using your nose, focusing on positive thoughts... do this till you feel relaxed or at least more in silent with yourself.

3) TALK TO YOUR SOUL: You must be crazy!!!nothing more true, we are all crazy then!! Why are you singing under the shower?? This is a normal fact, don't use any words but just your thought... I am just real... we need to talk to ourself and forgive us...I use to ask  myself so much and I felt destroyed and disappointed then...FORGIVE YOURSELF!!! this is the base, talk to your thoughts, to your deepest part, ask to it how can you help.,

Thsi part is not so far away, it is just inside us, don't be scared!! WAKE UP!!!

4) THANK YOUR SPIRIT: We are made of many parts, if you are reading this post then you believe in this.
We couldn't make all of this alone, if you want you can try to do opposite and you will see...negative thoughts bring nowhere, before or later you will need to change this....Why don't you start right now?
Everyday I thank "SOMETHING BIGGER" for what I had, this is up to you, everybody has his own SOMETHING BIGGER idea.
If I had bad day, I will learn, if I had good one, I will thank.

Thank you everyone for reading and sharing this.

Are you InSpired?

Are you InSpired?

Today I watched a very nice video on youtube of Anthony Robbins

I think this man has a gift, he is able to explain to us (at least to me) big things in a very easy way.

I listened to the complete video twice and I focused on a part of it: InSpired means being-in-spirit

Pay attention, this is not the spirit you use to drink on Saturday night out :) 

How often are we inspired?

I think we are InSpired almost every moment of our life, but we don't recognize this feeling...

We feel something in the air..I don't understand what is it........I heard this sentence so many times, people say that and they just leave it where it is....they don't go deep in it....it is normal..now I need my breakfast, my cigarette and fun with my fiance...what happened next?

Your "feeling" disappears, as you don't want to think about it....your idea goes away...

This happens because we are used to live our life according to a common point of view... being different...let's say...listen to ourself is too hard to do, it takes too long...

How can we do then?

We should look at our land...easier...to ourself from an higher point....you don't need to walk on stairs or climbing a mountain...you just need to be-in-spirit.

Our spirit needs us, it is part of us, it doesn't ask, you just need to listen to it.

1) Stop your daily duty: can you spend 5 minutes for our self??

2) sit down and meditate on your own...this is a very easy thing to do...you need to train day by day ad it will lead you to a complete health benefit Add caption

3) Wait....don't expect anything....as we are not use to, this is the biggest lesson everybody can learn from nowadays....it would be illogical doing the opposite...you have just started!!

4) Be Faithful....believe in yourself..... HAVE FAITH!!! nothing easier than this...leave the idea of yourself or better of your "I" to become nothing or better everything....when we believe in what we do, nothing can stop us....you can have faith in whom you really belive in...remind that person is inside yourself...

5) Lose yourself in something bigger...focus on this.... now you are generating positive feelings, ideas flow because you finally are in touch with your spirit...YOUR SPIRIT BELONGS TO SOMETHING BIGGER...WE BELONG TO SOMETHING BIGGER....the more you realize it...the more your life will get better...

You just need to be-in-spirit now, I hope to see your comments!!thanks for reading this!!

Be your best friend

Be your best friend

My blog header shows a famous Anthony De Mello's quote:

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.” 
― Anthony de Mello, Awareness

This sentence had a big meaning on my life few years ago, Anthony De Mello books introduced me little bit more into my spiritual research, which is very important for all of us.

My favourite part of this quote is " If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.” 

This is a wonderful and meaningful example of how we should live our emotions...

How many time did you feel sorry to be left from someone? 

It is incredible, people leave us, maybe kick our ass and we still feel sorry for them... but how can we manage to keep them?

It is easy, if we love someone, we have to leave him/her free to go and come back....I will make it easier...if our emotions start from our hearts, it means that we need to feel free to leave and go everytime we want to and that's how we should live...

Few days ago one of my best friend came to visit me with his family... it was wonderful how I felt so free to talk to him without problems... even if some comments would come out, I will void them.

How can we void this kind of temptation? How easy is to comment some others action?

It is easy, I AM MY BEST FRIEND, and what does it mean to be our own best friend?

Being our best friend is very easy, treat and beahve yourself how you would like to be treated, e.g.:

When we go out and have our breakfast early morning, we cannot figure out a bad day or negative thought....our face is tired and our brain has not yet started to compose thoughts...

You just want to start your day slowly, stress-free and withouth judgdment....

WHAT ABOUT KEEPING THIS FEELING ALL THE DAY LONG?

That's what you have to do, move forward like if you were together with your best friend, he/she helps you, listens to you in silence, smile to you or suggests you....WHY DON'T YOU DO THE SAME TO YOURSELF?

Being a best friend means being yours first!

Thinking Positive Being Positive

Thinking Positive Being Positive

My week end was pretty good, I spent good time with family, few hours with friends and having fun with my hobbies...

It seems almost perfect I can say...but... Saurday was a nervy day, everything was not turning so well...I didn't step on my right leg (which can happen), I was not even smiling (which is not so normal for me)....

I realized my actions were not helping me....wait wait...what was I saying? My actions?? Are they independent from what I think,do and get?

NOOO!!

I stopped and I said "MY DAY should be MINE!! I started checking my mouth then...I was saying sooo many bad words to myself, also my words...

Are they connected to each others?? YES!!!

My actions, my feelings, my day

It was very easy to change or better REPLACE MY WORDS...see the following:

"What a s..t day!!! look I should stay home today, nothing works!!"

I show you 3 mistakes of the sentence above:

1) Bad words: this is a common mistake, we think that spreading them out of our mouth will help us...rememeber WE OWN OUR WORDS! they will make our feelings then

2) Giving up: human being use to take the easiest way... the less we fight, the easier it is...that's what sounds good to our ears...LIE!! We become stronger climbing our mountains, keeping on! if we give up we will then do it even quicker every day

3) Extreme words: this is not so good for yourself...WORDS LEAD TO EXPECTATIONS!!,

    it is almost impossible to reach an extreme goal, because they are not real! This will give you a bda feeling, you may fail in your mind...

I show you now 3 solutions:

1) Check your mouth: try to void this kind of words when you are bit too high, we shouldn't talk so much if we are angry, excited and so on...

2) Are you sure you can't do it? Try to ask this question to yourself everytime, I think you can do it or at least give to yourself a chance to do it.

3) Moderate words: try to replace NEGATIVE with NOT THE BEST, you will be more free to fail or to change your mind.

Will you speak better now?