Be your best friend

Be your best friend

My blog header shows a famous Anthony De Mello's quote:

“Perfect love casts out fear. Where there is love there are no demands, no expectations, no dependency. I do not demand that you make me happy; my happiness does not lie in you. If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.” 
― Anthony de Mello, Awareness

This sentence had a big meaning on my life few years ago, Anthony De Mello books introduced me little bit more into my spiritual research, which is very important for all of us.

My favourite part of this quote is " If you were to leave me, I will not feel sorry for myself; I enjoy your company immensely, but I do not cling.” 

This is a wonderful and meaningful example of how we should live our emotions...

How many time did you feel sorry to be left from someone? 

It is incredible, people leave us, maybe kick our ass and we still feel sorry for them... but how can we manage to keep them?

It is easy, if we love someone, we have to leave him/her free to go and come back....I will make it easier...if our emotions start from our hearts, it means that we need to feel free to leave and go everytime we want to and that's how we should live...

Few days ago one of my best friend came to visit me with his family... it was wonderful how I felt so free to talk to him without problems... even if some comments would come out, I will void them.

How can we void this kind of temptation? How easy is to comment some others action?

It is easy, I AM MY BEST FRIEND, and what does it mean to be our own best friend?

Being our best friend is very easy, treat and beahve yourself how you would like to be treated, e.g.:

When we go out and have our breakfast early morning, we cannot figure out a bad day or negative thought....our face is tired and our brain has not yet started to compose thoughts...

You just want to start your day slowly, stress-free and withouth judgdment....

WHAT ABOUT KEEPING THIS FEELING ALL THE DAY LONG?

That's what you have to do, move forward like if you were together with your best friend, he/she helps you, listens to you in silence, smile to you or suggests you....WHY DON'T YOU DO THE SAME TO YOURSELF?

Being a best friend means being yours first!